Perimenopause & My Closet: How I Learned to Dress Again

I never thought I’d have to “relearn” how to get dressed, but perimenopause has a way of rewriting the rules. It’s that transition period before menopause when hormones begin shifting, sometimes years in advance. For me, it’s meant surprise hot flashes, random bloating, and skin that suddenly feels more sensitive than ever.

The body I’d known for decades is starting to feel different—sometimes unfamiliar. And the clothes I once reached for don’t always feel as comfortable anymore.

At first, I felt frustrated standing in front of my closet. What used to work didn’t always work now. But little by little, I began finding new go-to pieces that made me feel good in my skin again—cooler, softer, and freer.

Here are a few of the changes I’ve made to my wardrobe that have made all the difference:

Pull-On Pants

The day I swapped zippers and stiff waistbands for pull-on pants was the day I breathed easier. Stretchy waists and soft fabrics move with me instead of against me, especially on days when bloating or a sudden hot flash leave me wanting zero extra pressure.

Lately, I’ve been reaching for The Luxe Leopard Lounge Pants—easy, comfy, and still stylish enough to wear out without thinking twice.

Soft Knits

Scratchy fabrics are out. With my skin more sensitive these days, I reach for soft, breathable knits that feel soothing instead of irritating. Lightweight layers are a must since I never know when a hot flash will hit, and I need to cool down quickly.

I love The Visionary Knit Set because it feels airy and supportive while still having a fun, standout design that makes me feel put together.

Easy Layers

Layering has become less about style and more about survival. A lightweight jacket or cardigan is a lifesaver when my body can’t decide if it’s freezing or overheating.

The Dina Denim Blazer has become my go-to—it’s comfortable, polished, and adds just enough sparkle to make me feel confident.

Perimenopause has reminded me that clothes aren’t just about appearance—they’re about how we move through the world with comfort and confidence. Dressing myself now is less about squeezing into a version of who I was, and more about embracing who I’m becoming.

If you’re in this season too, give yourself permission to update your closet. Your comfort is not negotiable. Pull-on pants, soft knits, and easy layers might not solve every symptom, but they sure do make the ride a little smoother.

Your turn: If you’ve experienced hot flashes or body changes, what’s your go-to piece that keeps you comfortable? I’d love to hear what’s in your closet right now.

For more inspiration, check out Shavonne Dorsey.